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No Negativity Among Us

posted Mar 06, 2017 03:58:43 by Kathryn Blose
Today our stake met together and the sacrament was passed to about 500 members. The order of business was that a Spanish ward was dissolved and some ward boundaries were realigned (last time was a year ago.) Our ward lost some members and gained others. I'm excited for the Spanish speaking families to join with our ward. It is a blessing to me that my family helped me to get my BA in Spanish at BYU back in 1976. I have missed being with Spanish speaking members. Our family served in a small Spanish speaking branch in Allentown, Pennsylvania in the 1990s. Our branch there truly valued us and we felt like family with them. It was hard to leave them. I have never felt so close as a church unit as I did there.

When I heard that we were getting a change in our bishopric, I was holding my breath. I was glad for the news of the change and I was going to tell my husband some of my thoughts about the old bishopric being released, but some of them were not things I should say. There was a repeated message by our stake presidency that we need to not let ANY negativity be part of us. So instead of talking to my husband about issues I had gone through with certain leaders, I decided to just take the issues to the Lord.. . I need to just thank the former leaders for their service, and do something kind for them.

I have to work at getting rid of negative thoughts and plead to the Lord to help me with that. For me it is sometimes hard to deal with certain people that disrespect me over and over. Because the hurt sometimes runs deep, I have to take my feelings to the Lord.

Thankfully we can fully tell the Lord what we feel. It helps me to remember that I need to forgive other people's twenty dollar sins because the Lord has forgiven me for bigger sins. But it still takes the Lord to remove the stings from the times I have felt wounded.

I felt a great relief that our ward Primary President told me she needs me this next Sunday. I was released from Primary (along with my husband) several months ago. It was hard, but we took it in stride. I sensed that I needed to keep a low profile in Gospel Doctrine and in Relief Society.

To be honest, it was very uncomfortable for me in both of those groups. In part, my daughter, Charity, needs me to not be in the class with her. She needs her space.

I felt comforted that I know the new bishop, and have had many positive interactions with him and his family. My goal is to strive to love all of my ward, and to let go of the past pain I have felt there. I definitely need the Lord's help to do it.

One book that is helping me to overcome bad feelings is a book by Wallace Goddard, Drawing Heaven Into Your Marriage. He says that the Atonement is everything in relationships. His book is so inspired!
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Kathryn Blose said Mar 06, 2017 04:51:07
Ah--new challenge. I just received a priesthood blessing for the bad cold I have had lingering. The Lord said to claim the blessing...and to accept any calling my new bishop extends to me-- even if it means Relief Society or Young Women's... The Lord knows how to get me out of my comfort zone...I will trust Him and not murmur or think negatively.
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David.Clark said Mar 06, 2017 04:51:30
Kathryn, at another time in my life, I had had some strife with someone. When I got with those close to me, all I wanted to do was talk about my negative feelings about what happened.

Finally, after awhile, they lovingly told me to take my feelings to the Lord because only He can do something about the circumstances. I was hurt that they didn't want to let me talk things out with them any longer. As time moves on, I've seen the wisdom of what they said and I am thankful for their "tough love."

Thank you for your post because your comments reminded me of that lesson, of which I need constant reminding.
Formerly known as Alabama LDS

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SusanMalone said Mar 07, 2017 05:30:35
oh I am so happy to see another making progress in an area that I struggle with. I have been striving and pleading with the Lord to help me overcome my negative, critical attitude that sometimes surfaces. He is helping me and it is such a relief. One thing I have noticed lately is just how much power I really do have. When a negative thought creeps into my mind, I now usually can stop it and say to myself that I refuse to think that way. The most amazing thing is that when I do that, I am filled with peace, joy and love rather immediately. It has been so nice :-)
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JulieK said Mar 07, 2017 06:04:38
Recently I have found such relief and peace in letting go of hurtful feelings that I have hung onto for many, many years. I've really worked hard at processing through each resentment and painful thought and giving them to the Savior. I'm really so tired of lugging around hurt feelings that only hurt me more. Currently I'm working hard at not having jealousies and fears. I'm trying to get better at recognizing the feeling when it first starts and then talking truth to myself about it so I don't develop them and hang onto them. I've got work to do, but I'm working on it.

I think it's great Kathryn that you can recognize the issue and strive for change -- that's half of the battle. I admire your resolve to trust God even when you're out of your comfort zone.
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ElishaJones said Mar 07, 2017 19:55:41
This is just a snippet of a talk from Dr. John Lund on giving our love to our family and frustrations to the Lord. The whole presentation is wonderful!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hstMUCbASUI
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Kathryn Blose said Mar 07, 2017 21:40:24
Thank you everyone. We all need to overcome the natural man/woman within us. I have no doubt the Lord will help me as I do my part. David, you are right--we need to take it to the Lord, and not to others, who really cannot do anything about the problems. Susan, thank you for your comment about not letting the negative thoughts stay in your mind. Reminds me of the saying 'You can't help if it a bird lands on your head, but if he builds a nest, you let him.' Julie, I like the idea of handing the problem to the Lord.. and Elisha, I have the CD of Dr. John Lund! I love all of you!!
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IvyKeawe said Mar 07, 2017 21:44:01
I absolutely love your post. The thread comments are amazing. I'm currently working on this as well. So thank you all!
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